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Reminiscing Mondays: Church Business in Nigeria

Today's Reminiscing post comes from my friend, Olu. He's "chillin" in Nigeria for a little bit and will be guest blogging his experiences, which I'm really excited to read. 

I’ve been to 4 different churches in Lagos. Trust me; there is no shortage of choice. In economic terms the market is oversaturated. I’ve attended 5, 4, 3 ½ and 1 ½ hour services; each with its little quirks. I wasn’t amused at the longer ones.

The atmosphere on Sunday mornings is totally different from the weekdays. The change begins in the wee hours of the morning; the young ladies I live with change their playlists from Don Jazzy to Don Moen. Their outfits would have been brought out and pressed the night before, and a bathroom order would have determined too. There’s just this air of order and tranquility that doesn’t carry over into the rest of the week. The girls then come out looking particularly stunning – the term Sunday best, personified. Everyone looks their best, except me of course. I like dressing down, not up.

When we get out on the road, the usual traffic jams are non-existent! I can’t explain it because there are a ton of people on their way to church yet traffic flows seamlessly. Possible miracle? It is Sunday after all :). Most radio stations "get saved" and play gospel tracks and sermons all day. Bus drivers give way to pedestrians, the constant honking seize, and the scowl on the faces of old women is gone. Lagosians are transformed.

Last week I counted 20 churches on a 10-minute drive to church! I saw one building with two different churches, one on top of the other. I’ve seen churches at the mall, open-aired churches, tent churches, inception churches (a church within a church), and a church on top of a church. Apart from the popular franchises, individuals have also begun tapping into this seemingly robust market. I can guarantee you that a new church is planted every week in Lagos. I am not going to analyze the authenticity of different ministries because it is not my place, but I’ve met some people with personal experiences that are very critical of some churches.



There are "tooch"/rich churches where the big men and celebs bless the congregation with their presence. The praise/worship session in these churches are particularly long and the dancing is epic – young chicks and older women getting low, shaking their bottoms letting go of all inhibitions. I could hardly concentrate because so much was going on. Then there are others with just the pastor and his family in attendance. Awkward! Preaching to your wife and kids… but I see fulfillment and contentment in the way they go about their work.


I asked a pastor why there are so many churches and why so many people attend. His response was one word: hope. He said if everyday Nigerians began to get rich and comfortable like us in North America, they would not bother coming to church. It’s the chaos, poverty, and suffering that motivate a lot of people to attend church where they can hear messages of hope, prosperity and restoration. A pastor I respect describes this motivation as seeking His hand, not His face. (His=God’s)

Reminiscing Mondays: The Maldives

Today's Reminiscing post comes from my friend, Olu. He'll be "chillin" in Nigeria for a little bit and will be guest blogging his experiences, which I'm really excited to read. 

 There was a thunderstorm my first night back. I would’ve thought it was a bad sign…if I didn’t know any better. The objective of these entries is purely to record my informal observations. I say informal because this
allows me to get away with all manners of grammatical errors (see what I did there?) This is DEFINITELY
an amateurs’ attempt and I claim to be no expert in blogging, or whatever topics I will be writing on. I will try and include a picture or a short clip in each entry for continuity sake. I admit the title is a bit odd but it is supposed to be a metaphor.


On my 13 hour flight from Atlanta to Lagos, I watched a fascinating documentary about the Maldives. It featured a brief exposé on the country’s pseudo-democratic rule it was subject to for about 30 years. When a young brown knight on a horse emerged to challenge the norm and champion the peoples’ cause, people straightened their backs – because as MLK said, “A man cannot ride your back unless it is bent.” He won the election and the Maldives lived happily ever after, right? Wrong! Within the first month of occupying office, his administration was faced with a new type of problem. Their country that is made of thousands of island was sinking, a consequence of global warming. This is what I see here in Nigeria. We won the fight, but we are now sinking. A new type of problem has arisen and now people are trying to stay afloat. There you have it! Title explained. 

I would like to thank God for this opportunity to come back home after so long, and all the experiences He has preordained— the spontaneous ones too. To my folks, thank you for footing some of the bill. Ms. Brown thanks for this small piece of your large pie that is Pearlle. Hope I spelt that correctly!

Changing Yourself for a Man?


       One of the most disappointing things a woman could experience is loving someone who doesn’t love her back, or worse someone who simply isn’t compatible with her. As women, we often try change ourselves in some way or another to be accepted. We sometimes even go as far as altering ourselves physically to meet someone else’s ideal, but the question is, is it worth it? To change ourselves to fit someone else`s mold of okay or beautiful? To ignore the risks involved and do whatever it takes to be accepted? Well there’s a million different ways to answer to that question, it’s all a matter of your personal values and beliefs; I personally believe that the right person will accept me for who I am and that includes my virtues and flaws.

       But what if he seems perfect, like he’s everything you’ve ever wanted but he just doesn’t seem to be able to look past those little things that “make you, you”, what do you do then? I’ll give you the same advice I’ve given every one of my friends who’s asked me this question; stay true to yourself. Though it may seem like the right thing to do at the time to slightly modify your “undesirable” traits to suit meet your partners expectation, in the long run you could end up being unhappy because you’re being who they want you to be not who you are.

       So is it worth it? I think not, the right person will accept you for who you are and if they can’t, then it’s time to move on. Trust me, it’s for the best. So what do you think, would you change yourself for a partner?